While North Carolina is a no-fault divorce state, the absence of sex in a marriage can be important for establishing fault in other circumstances, such as awarding post-separation support, awarding alimony, and obtaining a divorce from bed and board. A divorce from bed and board can be misleading in that it is actually a form of legal separation rather than a traditional divorce. In seeking a divorce from bed and board, the parties must show one of the above-listed fault grounds, but they do not need to meet the one-year separation requirement such as with an absolute divorce. Traditional fault grounds include adultery, abandonment, malicious turning out of doors, indignities, cruel and barbarous treatment, and excessive drug or alcohol use. While the absence of sex in a marriage is not an enumerated fault ground, a sexless marriage can be equated to constructive abandonment when coupled with additional factors. Unlike actual marital abandonment, constructive abandonment does not require a spouse to physical leave the home.
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According to The New York Times , men and women who are married have sex an average of 58 times a year, just over more than once a week. These statistics, of course, are varied''married people under 30 have sex about times a year. And it's estimated that about 15 percent of married couples have not had sex with their spouse in the last six months to one year,' reports the Times. Despite these numbers, a common phenomenon in marriage is the waning of sexual interest in one's partner. This can often lead to a sexless marriage 'which in turn can lead to divorce. A sexless marriage is not one in which the couple is merely not being consistently intimate, but rather one in which repeated sexual advances are ignored and the couple experiences a long period without any intimate activity at all. If a spouse is withholding sex, or using it as a weapon, this is immediate grounds for divorce.
If you laugh at that joke bitterly or can't at all, you are probably on the brink of despair or perpetually frustrated at being unable to get your partner to have sex with you for quite some time. And it is a paradoxical situation because one of the reasons behind a decision to get married is to have sex regularly. But in some cases, married people may end up having no sex at all.
Here are some of the many thoughtful replies — from all over the world — which you sent us. S ex is an important part of any relationship, but what happens if it stops? Last week, we looked at how you can get the spark back, with an article by Joan McFadden in which she offered advice to couples on how to cope with a lack of sex.